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by Anonymous
- Feb 25, 2018
- 2 min
A Dad's Perspective on Sex After Kids
We want The Hotbed to be inclusive and have male and female perspectives on sex and relationships. In this post a Dad shares his experience of going through a sex break with his wife and how he looks forward to things picking up again. It's important that we keep these channels of commuication open- sometimes women think their partner is losing interest when really, they're longing to re-boot intimacy too. This Dad shares his story... 'I am currently sat watching the rugby wh
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Candice Braithwaite
- Jan 19, 2018
- 4 min
My Hotbed Life With Candice Brathwaite
Candice Brathwaite is a Presenter, Writer and co-founder of online campaign #MAKEMOTHERHOODDIVERSE. 29 years old and currently pregnant with her second child, she uses Instagram Stories to speak with two thousand women per day during her virtual chat show ‘TEATIME!’ She's a formidable force and when we met her we admit...a little bit of wee came out. When not buried deep into her phone she presents online shows and interviews. Look out for her in 2018 as the presenter of new
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Celine Bell
- Dec 19, 2017
- 3 min
How to argue when you have kids
Of course, we shouldn’t argue with kids around. We should be grateful to have them, and walk around in a fuzzy warm haze, congratulating ourselves on our good fortune, ensuring we wear matching Boden, and post #blessed images on Instagram. The problem is, nobody has slept through the night for weeks, 5am is a familiar friend for all the wrong reasons, and the only conversations you have with your partner start “Have you seen….?” Occasionally you mix it up by discussing wha
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Celine Bell
- Dec 19, 2017
- 3 min
When parenting makes the bed turn cold
I remember my husband saying to me, a few heady weeks into our relationship, that he couldn’t imagine getting into bed with me and not touching me, or sitting next to me and not resting a hand on me. We were connected by touch the whole time we were together, either holding hands as we walked home, or a hand rested on a knee, or in the small of a back. Our relationship was, as many relationships are so early on, incredibly physical. Fast-forward a few years, and whilst we sti
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Georgina Fuller
- Dec 18, 2017
- 3 min
My Year of Celibacy
In my early 20s I made the radical decision to take a year of celibacy. My flatmate at the time, who was a year or so older than me and seemed considerably more worldly, told me it would help ‘sort my head out.’ My memory isn’t great but I think it followed a fairly turbulent rebound period after the break-up of a long-term relationship and it seemed like quite a radical yet progressive thing to do. This was pre-digital age so the main way you would meet someone was generally
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Katherine Hill
- Dec 15, 2017
- 4 min
We're not Bridget Jones you know....sex & millenials
So here at The Hotbed Collective we spend a lot of time focusing on sex after having kids, but what's it like for younger couples without? We spoke to Katharine Hill who is not just a talented illustrator, but is also a cultural expert. We asked her some questions about sex and millenials... So do you think your generation is more confident sex wise? Are you happier than all us knackered parents? I don't think my gen is happier about sex, no. There seems to be something holdi
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Mother Pukka
- Sep 26, 2017
- 2 min
'Bonking with Intent' or Trying for a Baby Sex
Mates had started kicking things off in the baby arena before us and the first few baby showers had begun easing into a diary that was formerly the reserve of nights getting mashed up in places called The Purple Turtle. There wasn't even a discussion, just an accidental moment that turned into a series of them. Everything else in my life had seemed controllable- GCSES, A-levels, work, even marriage- and then suddenly you're playing Russian roulette with your ovaries centre st
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Sophie Farrow
- Sep 19, 2017
- 2 min
Why Burping My Partner Rarely Gets Me In The Mood
As parents you know sex either involves impeccable timing, careful planning or don't-make-a-sound non-fun! None of them are mind blowing, to say the least. But also add in a partner that often throws in a good fart too for good measure, then all romance is officially dead! I often feel like I'm looking after two kids but what happened this particular night took the biscuit. Picture this (and no not us naked, as that would be gross)...no instead picture us laying down in bed f
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Dr Karen Gurney
- Sep 17, 2017
- 3 min
Help! My Partner Fancies Porn More Than Me
Do you have a sex problem which you would like us to help sort out? Write to us here and we'll do our best. In the fifth in this series of sex advice, Dr Karen Gurney, @thesexdoctor on Instagram, and director of the Havelock Clinic, answers one reader question... Question: Hi Dr Karen, My husband is no longer interested in me and I fear that he doesnt find be attractive. He is also watching a lot of online porn. I checked his browsing history and he'd forgotten to erase it. D
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by The Damsel
- Aug 25, 2017
- 3 min
The Beginner's Guide to Sex Parties
Swingers clubs, adult parties, play parties or just a good, old fashioned orgy. Whatever you call them, sex parties are becoming mainstream (check out this Metro article for instance), and more people are curious about what used to be a scene shrouded in taboo. For me, the attraction lies in the freedom to unleash my inner seductress and get a little kinky in a safe space. When I first started going to play parties I got mixed reactions from my friends; they were surprised, c
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Lisa Williams
- Jul 30, 2017
- 3 min
How can I feel sexy again after a miscarriage?
Do you have a sex problem which you would like us to help sort out? Write to us here and we'll do our best. To kick off this series of sex advice, Dr Karen Gurney, @thesexdoctor on Instagram, and director of the Havelock Clinic, answers one reader question... Question: Help! I've recently had a miscarriage which ended in surgery. Although we've come to terms with what happened my husband and I tried having sex last night but it felt clinical and I ended up an emotional mess.
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The Hotbed Collective
- Jul 7, 2017
- 2 min
The Sex After Kids Hotbed Survey: Results
‘I used to love it all but just cannae be bothered now! My younger child-free self would be furious!’ We surveyed you about your sex lives after having kids. It was all completely anonymous, and revealed that 77% of parents are unhappy with their sex lives, with lack of energy, sleep and sex drive being cited as the top three contributing factors. 93% of parents surveyed said they’d like to improve their sex lives, but 36% blamed embarrassment on why they weren’t as adventuro
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by Anonymous
- Jun 28, 2017
- 3 min
Can you repair your sex life after infidelity?
I have known and done sod-all about being an alcoholic for more than 15 years. I have lost count of the stupid-assed things I have done while drunk, some I probably can’t remember! Yet through 11 years of hell my husband has stood by me, rock-solid. Until the shit hit the fan and I made my worst drunken mistake of my life. I slept with his friend. It was not something I'd planned, I didn’t even really like the guy, I would have never have done it sober. But I did do it on a n
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The Hotbed Collective
- Apr 6, 2016
- 1 min
Who and what the bloody hell are/is the Hotbed Collective?
We are The Hotbed Collective. We are making life better one orgasm at a time.Because sexual adventure has got to be about more than penis pasta on the occasional hen. Please, god, let it be more. We believe in good sex, better sex, even in long-term relationships, even when you have fish finger on the bottom of your sock, even when you're so tired the idea of even having to brush your teeth makes you weep, let alone getting down to sexy time. We believe that brilliant sex is
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The Hotbed Collective
- Apr 5, 2016
- 3 min
Is Watching Sex Better Than Doing It?
Did you watch TV last night? Did you see the scene in 'Girls' where Marnie gets shoved up against the kitchen sink and has sex doggy-style with Desi? Or how about when Celeste in 'Big, Little Lies,' has violent, hate-sex with her monster husband Perry? Was it as good as that scene in 'The Affair' when Noah and Alison do it for the first time? Was it as good as the scene with Khaleesi and Drogo in 'Game of Thrones'? TV has changed dramatically from our childhoods. Back then, s
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