April 2, 2018

Phowar he's a bit of alright. 

He's more than alright.

Oooh he's a sort.

I love a man with chubby thighs.

God a man who is just starting to lose his hair.

God that's gross.

No a ginger man. 

Like Prince Harry.


A man who is bossy.

A man who is the singer in a band.

A skin...

March 3, 2018

So this week we tackle another sex problem with our resident expert Dr Karen Gurney.  She's also known as @thesexdoctor on Instagram, and director of the Havelock Clinic. There is no question too big or too small for Dr Karen so get in touch if you want to share and we...

February 25, 2018

We want The Hotbed to be inclusive and have male and female perspectives on sex and relationships. In this post a Dad shares his experience of going through a sex break with his wife and how he looks forward to things picking up again. It's important that we keep these...

January 26, 2018

I was thinking the other day how it's only really recently that I've realised how much my hormonal cycle has impacted my love life. Like most women my age (40, as of this month), I was on the pill from my teens which probably suppressed the symptoms of a normal menstru...

January 19, 2018

Candice Brathwaite is a Presenter, Writer and co-founder of online campaign #MAKEMOTHERHOODDIVERSE. 29 years old and currently pregnant with her second child, she uses Instagram Stories to speak with two thousand women per day during her virtual chat show ‘TEATIME!’ Sh...

January 15, 2018

I wasn’t a particularly early starter, but I always looked older than my age so found that men were hassling me for sex from about thirteen. It didn’t help that I went out to clubs in Soho, and lied about my age, and wore platform shoes and had enormous hair (though I...

January 10, 2018

Well maybe not actually turning 40. I’m sure as I headed through my late 30’s it got better. And if you’re not there yet and you’re filled with fear at the thought of aging, I’m here to tell you, you have nothing to worry about. Last night my husband and I had sex. Act...

December 28, 2017

I have never been someone who thought dating sites would be an option. I never really got down with the maybe-you’ll-meet-your-life-partner-online thing.  Although my friends have told me success stories about people getting married or finding someone decent, I wasn’t...

December 19, 2017

A little while ago, I wrote (another) anonymous blog, wondering whether having surgery would help me to rekindle my sex life. And no, not that, kind of surgery, but intricate surgery to repair parts that had suffered after giving birth to two children within two years....

December 19, 2017

Of course, we shouldn’t argue with kids around.  We should be grateful to have them, and walk around in a fuzzy warm haze, congratulating ourselves on our good fortune, ensuring we wear matching Boden, and post #blessed images on Instagram.  The problem is, nobody has...

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